Polyamory is the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at the same time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It is not a very understandable situation for people who live in a monogamist society like Korea.
It is sometimes used more broadly to refer to relationships that are not sexually exclusive, though there is disagreement on how broadly it applies. The movie ‘Wife Got Married’ deals with polyamory love. Many polyamorists have children, either within the relationship or from a previous relationship. In the movie, Son Ye-jin had a baby, and they raised the baby separately. However, the love that the baby got was twice as the normal situation.
Like other elements of polyamory, the way in which children are integrated into the family structure varies widely. Some possibilities are: Parents are primarily responsible for their own children (biological, adoptive, or step-), but other members of the relationship act as an extended family, providing assistance in child rearing. Adults raise children collectively, all taking equal responsibility for each child regardless of consanguinity. Parents are wholly responsible for their own children, with other members of the relationship relating to the children as friends of the parents.
‘Wife Got Married’ is the first movie in Korea dealing with polyamory. The movie, ‘Marriage is Crazy Thing’, is about a Gangnam homemaker, who has a relationship with a poor ex-boyfriend secretly. It deals with cohabitation. There are different sights of cohabitation in the world. Broadly, it is divided into the East and the West. Drama and movie reflect the reality directly or indirectly.
‘Sex and the City’ is very popular drama in the world. This shows New York people’s daily life about enjoying, working, and loving. There are four gorgeous career women and they think and act freely with their own mind. In experiencing and accepting another culture, there are lots of differences and things to think about. However in the movie, the relationship between people and roommates, cohabitation is striking. For example, cohabitation is not strange between couples and they allow even premarital sexual relations. It could be just cohabitation but also just a simple roommate relation. It means that cohabitation is not a negative thing in the West.
Why is cohabitation so negative in the East compared to the West? In the East, there can be a drama about the ‘cohabitation’ subject. The context of it is the trembling of fear if they are caught cohabiting by their neighbor or parents. A few years ago, ‘Attic cat’ made quite a splash. It was because it contains a subject matter of cohabitation, which cannot be argued easily or publicly without a stereotype.
Recently our society has become more open about the subject of sexuality. This is a new cultural fact and may affect many young people. Spreading sexual open mindedness, the thought of cohabitation may change to the young. This is caused by TV’s media mostly. ‘Attic cat’ was broadcasted first, but recently there are many kinds of dramas dealing with cohabitation. ‘My Sweet City’ is one of them. It was very careful about discussing ‘sexuality things’ on television, however it is not unfamiliar anymore. People acknowledge that we do not have to hide things about it. The actor Choi Gang-hee said in an interview, ‘Marriage is a bit fearful thing but I think cohabitation is fine. Cohabitation seems like friends. There is going to be arms for me always, I do not have to eat dinner alone, and we can go walk together anytime I want. It would be great.’ That is how she thinks about cohabitation. Today, there will be many opinions for each person, but many young people do not think it is strange. Normal people dream about romantic cohabitation at least one time, and have many illusions. The drama ‘My Sweet City’ reflects these public’s desire.
Not only movies or dramas, cohabitation is frequently a subject on TV programs. Every Sunday, there is a popular variety program, ‘We Got married’ and on cable pros. Some people agree with the program and apply their love cases. Media affects in many ways the public and arouses their sympathy and got popularity.< 저작권자 © 중앙헤럴드 무단전재 및 재배포금지 >