There was a special social lecture for the smooth human relations in February 6 at the graduate school building (302) 5th floor. The lecturer was an instructor of social skill lecture, Lee Ji-hoon. Lecturer Lee has many experiences of marketing management and chairman of various societies. The lecture was originally for the MBA students, but it was held again for other various students since it was thought to be useful not only for the MBA students but for the all kinds of people.

The lecture was composed of a lot of practical information. Lecturer Lee asked students to sit side by side with a member of the opposite sex that they didn't know and ask a question to each other about their nicknames, the reason of the nicknames, residences, hobbies, and specialties. After the conversation, the lecturer mentioned about aggressive listening. People should do aggressive listening by reducing the physical distance and reading emotional messages when meeting someone for the first time and having a conversation.

After the first conversation, lecturer Lee asked students to change partners and do the conversation again with different person. This time, the lecturer told the students not to advise the partner. Even if people offer sincere counsel to other people, they will not change their nature because they had lived all these years with the nature. Accept others the way they are and do not point out their problems.

Having another change, the lecturer said people should raise their self-esteem. These days, people are much too conscious about what others think of them. If people care too much about others, they cannot love themselves and have confidence. There is an ‘armor’ outside of one’s ego. However, once this ego gets hurt by others, it does not give a try to go out of the armor. People should draw their ego out of the armor because if the ego is stuck in the armor, one’s relationship will also be stuck inside.

The lecturer also said when having a conversation, people should ask many questions to each other. People should not just listen to others. Conversation is about asking questions. If you have any parts that are not clear, ask a question quickly.

After this time, the lecturer said give ‘gray opinion’. Persuade others with neutral opinions. Gray opinions are not consumptive, but mentally healthy. You can have a perfect conversation if you do not uncover your heart and mind. Embrace other opinions in sensitive situation.

This lecture gave the opportunity to have a fresh conversation with six different people. Students can try new methods when having a conversation as they change partners. One student asked “I have a problem carrying on the conversation with unknown person though we have good mood at first time. What should I do?” To this, the lecturer said that the best way is to meet well-fitting people. However, this is very hard. People should increase the time that meet the person and get used to the person’s character.

•       Interview with student

Semyung University senior in College of Law

•       How was today’s lecture?

It was my first time, but I liked it because the subject was not very difficult and I could meet various people. I would like to take another social relationship lecture if there is another one. It was very helpful.

•       Will this lecture be useful to your human relations?

There were many skills I did not even realize and skills that I did not practice though I knew it. It was good experience to look around myself, so it will be very helpful when I meet other people.